So I decided to work with a friend to craft my very own irresistible dating profile....worked and I'm now almost three years into a relationship with a wonderful man who loved my profile!These are my suggestions and what I now work through with clients: Create a Username that grabs attention, don't be lazy and use your initials followed by a handful of numbers!Eggers wouldn't let Business Insider sit in on the editing, but we spoke to a few attendees about what Eggers said they should do. One attendee had "Eating and drinking with friends" listed as some of her favorite activities.Eggers suggested that she list a restaurant where someone could find her, or a specific cocktail at a bar, as a better conversation starter. If you list consuming cocktails as an activity but then say in response to "what's your ideal Friday night?The stigma is gone -- and don’t listen to anyone who disagrees. Today, my clients zip their credit cards to the tune of anywhere around 0 to 0 (though I spill 144 pages of easy, actionable advice in my new book, for those on a budget). To be completely corny and completely honest, these sites and apps can help you find the most important person in your life -- and they all require some sort of profile (yes, even a series of photos counts).That goal alone, though, can be paralyzing, giving even writers writers’ block and above all making the majority of profiles…let’s just say lacking the personality they so desperately need.
Was I far too free and happy and unattached for the guys who feared me 'putting ideas' in their wives heads? With so many people of our generation turning to online dating to meet a new partner how do you write a profile that will stand out from the crowd? Those were the questions I had when I was online dating.
Be honest with what is a cliché (and try to avoid them). Make your self-summary feel like the first line of a novel.
"Recognize when you're repeating something that you've heard," said Dan, one of the attendees, and then try to eliminate it from your profile. It needs to be the "hook." The "about" section is where you can sound most generic, Eggers told Dan, so make sure you hook people in like you would in a book.
Well, that clearly wasn't to be as dinner party dates became fewer and further between.
Was a single, lively, midlife woman a bit of a liability?