Empathy is the ability to feel another’s experience, especially painful ones.Respect is the ability to value another’s experience.You don’t have to look into those sad puppy dog eyes and crush them - you can say what needs to be said, or just not reply to their email at all until they eventually get the message.
I get a fair number of interesting replies and first messages and there are two things I’m struggling with. Don’t over-spiritualize the decision If you don’t want to say yes to a date or a relationship, then just say so. But don’t say “I don’t think God is calling me to date you” unless you are uber, super, duper sure. Just saying Yes to consider him in a romantic relationship where maybe you haven’t before. Crazy-Guy-Who-You’ve-Been-Considering-Getting-A-Restraining-Order-Against, then say No. I’ve-Been-Sober-For-6-Days-Now-And-My-Mom-Has-Never-Been-So-Proud guy, then say No.