I seem to be doing something wrong because after the initial contact where the girl says she's interested, I can't seem to get it to the next level. Do I immediately ask to meet, or do I ask if she wants to talk on the phone or message?
Should I immediately offer a reference so she knows I'm not John Wayne Gacy's nephew?
I have not met her in person; in fact I haven’t spoken with her yet.
However, from her profile I have a clear picture of who she is and what she is looking for.
However, when I go that route we either never connect on the phone, or she doesn't respond after asking if she wants to talk on the phone. Please advise me on the proper protocol to follow and how to handle the situation. Ike Hi Ike, It seems to us that the reason your efforts to date online haven't gotten very far is that you're not making the right impression on women who contact you.
That doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll get what she wants, but she is better equipped to find men who are like-minded and to have a more positive dating experience until she meets Mr. The profile is indented, and my comments are in italics. “If there was a snowstorm…” is a very interesting way to begin a profile.
If your profile’s first line doesn’t have a hook, someone may not even bother reading the rest. You can start with, “I once…” and add an interesting story or share a fun fact about yourself to entice the reader to read on.
This might not be your favorite thing to do, but it does have a positive effect; it’s worth trying at least once. You can’t stop thinking, but you can stop paying attention to your thinking and start focusing on the other person. For those who are uncomfortable with the idea of a therapist, don’t be worried about any stigma attached to therapy. May you find the right tools to ease your mind and may you find the right person to spend time with.
Instead of thinking, “Am I good enough for so-and-so? ” If your answer is no, that’s a reminder to pay more attention to the conversation in front of you and less attention to the chatter in your head. There are wonderful techniques that you can learn and skills you can gain by going to a qualified therapist. By staying present, you are also better company and create the opportunity to put your best foot forward.